The Love Acolyte – Rededicated

So here’s what happened. One day I decided to dedicate myself to the idea and ideal of True Love. Sound familiar? It might if you had been reading my blog from the beginning. That’s what started this whole thing; wanting to write how I feel and possibly reach others who dream as I do, who Read More…

Letters in Cedar

Love is tactile.  You may think that an obvious statement … however, I’m referring to something else.  Something beautiful that is on the verge of going extinct. Love Letters.  Real love letters. When I graduated many (many) years ago, a local vendor gave each student a small cedar keepsake box (a small school in a Read More…

LOVE is EVOLution

Why hadn’t I noticed that before?  Love is the very beginning of the word.  EVOLution means change.  Therefore Love intends change.  “Don’t try to change me” is the battle-cry of the martyred partner.   The irrefutable position in many a Love battle.  This phrase is all but iconic, having gained so much power that it’ll derail Read More…

Do These Fears Make My Ass Look Big?

You’ll never be too old (thus implying some sort of gained wisdom through experience) and you’ll never have enough relationships to escape the truism:   to reach True Love & Intimacy, one must become Vulnerable.  Thus it follows that Vulnerability means an Open Heart, which means space for fears to raise their ugly heads.  Much Read More…

Got Any Change?

Here’s the thing.  Every time* two someones get together and decide to have a relationship, there’s inevitably a conversation that includes the phrase “Don’t try to change me”.   Typically, it’s held that the speaker is a man, and the recipient is a woman.** When I am faced with this seemingly immortal phrase, one of the Read More…

Dream On You Dreamers

A shout out to Love from the Love Acolyte. For everyone who is trying so hard to diminish today by referring to it as contrived and commercial – what’s so bad about Love? And before you jump on me because I found my Valentine, it’s not because I’m smug. Far from it. I’m grateful and Read More…

Love to Love

Sometimes you have to love before you fall in love.  Love is not always complete at that first rush.  Love is not always the end answer … it’s just the beginning – no matter how long you’ve been in love, building up to it, giving in to it, realizing it, or by golly even telling Read More…

Bring On The Love Wolf!

How many stories about tragic love do we celebrate?  Iconic, timeless stories  by acclaimed authors. Countless poets & lyricists of great fame – both ancient and modern.  Even personal stories of lost friends or family members.   Plug in “suicide for love” into Google and you get numerous hits for poems, songs, videos, movies, plays,  support Read More…

3 … 2 … 1 … None

In the course of the last three years or so, I’ve been in love with three very different men.  One lasted for 2 years.  One lasted for 6 months.  And the last one lasted for one day. The two year relationship was with a lovely, gentle, smart, sweet, sane, stable man.  Funny and communicative and Read More…

The Fool Threat

Right.  So I’m Online Dating (OD). In the course of which, I find myself writing notes and emails of varying depths of intimacy while attempting to both seduce and deduce the person on the other side.  Recently, I’ve been introduced to a new breed (believe me, I’m sure the basic OD personalities have been dissected Read More…

The Cinderella Pill

Well … you almost got me … again.  I was feeling so sad and sour, depressed and fragile, ready to just give up.  Give up the exercises, give up the hair appointments, give up the clothes, the diets,  the Trying.  The constant worrying about what I did to deserve this, what could I have done Read More…